Where does worrying get ya?

Worry - Ugly ain't it?Today I went with my mother to her lawyer’s appointment. My Dad died about a year and a half ago and his life insurance company denied my mom’s claim for the insurance. To make a long story short she (with the support of us!) has decided to sue the insurance company as the advice we received suggested we have a case. Anyway, with the court systems the way they are it’ll be a while until we get to trial. I said all this to say this… My mom has had a lot on her mind in the last while (no wonder!) and she’s really finding it difficult to just let go and leave things in the lawyers hands. But this post isn’t really about my mom – it’s about the the observation going through my head that worrying really puts a damper on life. While this may be an obvious one for most people it’s surprising how many of us “non-worryers” still get caught in the trap of nail-biting, ulcer creating hyper-anxiety syndrome once and a while. The funny thing is – all our worrying really doesn’t accomplish anything. There’s a favorite scripture of mine in Matthew 6 where Jesus basically tells people ‘Don’t worry!’ The conclusion of Jesus’ thought as he goes through some of the things we humans worry about is that there’s really only one thing that matters

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33, NIV)

After all, there are things that make an eternal difference (going beyond this life) and things that are just temporary.

And then Jesus, goes on to say these nifty words, “Don’t worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (v. 34). How true is that! Is there anyone that can really say worrying about something made it better? If there’s something in your control – do something about it but if it’s out of your control…leave it – don’t worry because all the worrying won’t do one thing for you.

Case in point: have you ever communicated with someone (a friend maybe, or aquaintance) and later on remembered something you said (or wrote) that you get thinking, hmm…I wonder if they were offended by that — some people will let that thought run away on them and create a gigantic worry “snowball” that consumes there thoughts until eventually they do everything they can to avoid that person because they may have offended them. Instead, they could’ve nipped that worry in the bud and gave that person a quick call and cleared it up…just one example.

whoah..just realized I’m starting to write a chapter rather than a post – signing off!

First Post

For sometime now I’ve wanted to create a place where I can write down thoughts/ideas/experiences/reflections (and the list could go on…no I’m not using a thesaurus!) when I think its worth writing about. I thought about doing something on the Unashamed Online website but I’m in the midst of cleaning it up a little (which will probably take me a long time…hehe) so as to make it more streamlined and useful to visitors. Anyway, I kind of wanted to create a more “personal” space which wouldn’t really fit in with Unashamed Online. However, this blog is definitely going to be linked on the UO site and there might be cross-posting from time to time.

If your reading this (brave soul you are) you’ll find that some posts here might make sense and others might not. I find that in so many things I write elsewhere I hit the backspace key about five times more than any other key because I’m so particular about what I compose. So…the purpose of this space is for me to ramble….get my thoughts on paper (err..data…bytes – you know what I mean) without worrying about “editing” it for the “public”. Of course this isn’t a “bare all “site but merely a place for me to “think out loud” as it were. So there is an important disclaimer here: Don’t take anything I say here as my “official position” on something unless I clearly state “This is my official position” or something to the effect. When I “think out loud” its a way for me to sort out what I really believe is important – and I do that by seeing the words on the screen and (hopefully) from time to time seeing what others think in return.

Readers of this site may get a chance to gain a glimpse into the things I think about and the processes that lead me to form opinions, make decisions etc. I welcome your comments – just keep things civil 🙂

Well, that’s it for this first post – as I write, I’m realizing that I’ll probably post some of this in the “About” link –hehe killing two birds with one stone!